1: Review
the Danger in Envy & Jealousy like this:
'Ooh this is the very Acid eating up my mind from within... All
Happiness is Destroyed!'
2: Know that
Envy & Jealousy arise because one wants something that another
has!
The aversion towards that person arise. Wanting (greed) is Craving
towards an object.
Aversion (hate) is Craving away from an object. All forms of Craving
causes Suffering!
Know that Envy & Jealousy is the proximate cause of
Discontentment.
3: Envy &
Jealousy is cured by rejoicing in other's success & gains:
Mutual Joy! (Mudita)
'How good that this being, having done good in the past, now earns the
well deserved fruit!!!'
Thus one substitutes an disadvantageous mental state with an
advantageous mental state.
Know that Mutual Joy! (Mudita) is
the proximate cause of Contentment.
4: Begin and
Cultivate meditation on
Infinite Mutual Joy:
Sit down a silent & empty place with closed eye and beam from this the
heart:
'May I be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent, popular
and praised!' then:
'May my friends be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent,
popular and praised!'
'May my enemies be successful, rich, beautiful, famous, intelligent,
popular and praised!'
'May all in this village be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this country be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this earth be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this galaxy be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
'May all in this universe be successful, rich, beautiful, famous,
intelligent, popular and praised!'
beaming this tender sympathy out from the heart first out in front,
the right, left, back, above as
below, so gradually expanding up to and beyond the limitations of
space and into the infinitude!!!
5: Keep on
doing that 15-45 min every day. Note the difference in joyous
mentality during the day!
May all
beings rejoice in Mutual Joy celebrating
all beings success, since any real progress is good!
|
One
should not despise giving.
One should neither envy others.
One who envy others cannot attain absorption and will never enter
any concentrated trance.
Dhammapada 365 |
Neither nice speech nor serene behaviour
make one accomplished, if one is still
possessed of envy, miserliness or deceit.
Dhammapada 262 |
Absorbed in distractions,
not paying appropriate attention,
giving up the goal, following the pleasant,
one come to envy those who of right effort!
Dhammapada 209 |
see also:
Rejoicing Bliss = Mudita